The Spontaneous Life
Hello Guys and Dolls I hope you are having a fabulous weekend. I sure am; I just up and decided to go to the beach yesterday. A few hours drive but worth it. It got me to thinking about being spontaneous in my sex life not just my everyday life. Who's up for some spontaneity?
I understand that for some not having a plan is scary! If you have to plan because not having a plan makes you feel uneasy then by all means make a plan! The problem with planning is sometimes things don't go according to plan. When this occurs you need to be able to go with the flow and not allow the bottom to fall out because things don't go perfect. You need to be able to adjust and keep things flowing. There is no such thing as perfect and as long as you remember that you can still enjoy a plan that didn't quite go according to plan.
Improvise when your plan goes to shit!
When it comes to sex there is always a little planning that has to be done especially if protection is needed. You have to have picked something up just in case. The rest of it can all be left up to nature. Remember being a kid and having sex pretty much anywhere? As we got older we decided it was tacky somehow. Truth is kids did it because it was there only option but try it now and I promise you will wonder why you stopped. You don't have to have full on sex but you can definitely get started and finish when you get home.
The next time you feel like getting a little frisky with your partner don't wait until you get back home. Try it wherever you are; movies, car, or grocery store. It doesn't matter. Just let your spontaneous side do the driving; of course don't let it drive you to embarrassment or jail! Lol! A quick smack on the cheek in the grocery store can't hurt. A nice slow penis massage at the movies is always nice. You can always catch that movie tomorrow if things get really exciting! The point is to bring a little fun in and kick out some of the routine that makes life not so exciting at times.
Sometimes you don't need a plan!
If I know what you're going to do before you do it in the bedroom then this requires an intervention. Yes, if it works don't get rid of it but add something a little extra to spice things up. If you usually do that thing with your tongue first then do something else to change it up. If you always have sex in the bed then move to the living room. If you never jump in the shower with your partner try it; it doesn't have to lead to sex but it could. Spontaneity makes people feel like they are on a mini vacation even if it is only for a little while. Even if you go right back to your routine it feels good in the moment. Even if you don't do it but a few times a year it gives your partner a little something to think about and look forward to. If your partner likes the spontaneity then try something else next time.
It's okay to have a routine; it not okay to get bored in the bedroom!
Tips to help get started:
Blindfold - if you both wear blind folds it allows you to have to feel for everything. This is a simple but spontaneous way to play with your partner without any risks!
Switch locations - the patio works, kitchen counter, sofa, or bathroom. (people with kids master the art of wherever-whenever!)
Swap roles - If you are usually the aggressor then your partner will be the aggressor and you will be submissive.
Rendezvous - text or message your partner to meet you for sex and give them a time to be there. (this could be a hotel or your house just hit send)
Try a few of these and let me know if you have fun; I live for the excitement!